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When the Room Tilts: Mediator Self-Regulation and the Still Center
A session can start calmly and shift fast. This is where mediator self-regulation becomes crucial. You have been there. The mood of the session changes. Someone's voice goes up. An attorney interrupts. A client shuts down or floods. The air in the room thickens. And...
What Is a Gavron Warning? What California Divorcing Spouses Need to Know
If you are going through a divorce in California and spousal support is on the table, you should understand what a Gavron warning is. Whether you expect to pay support or receive it, this concept affects how long support lasts and what the court expects from each...
Five Questions to Ask Before You Hire a Divorce Mediator
[This article was originally posted in 2016. It has been revised and republished on 5/13/2026.] Choosing a mediator matters. The person you hire will sit in the middle of one of the most consequential negotiations of your life. A good mediator keeps the process...
I want to end my marriage, but my spouse won’t grant me a divorce.
Your spouse says they won't agree to a divorce. Maybe they said it outright. Maybe they just refuse to engage. Either way, you need to know something: in California, you do not need their permission. California is a no-fault state. The law does not require both...
The Tug Away From Mediator Neutrality
A strange moment can happen in mediation when the mediator neutrality starts slipping toward one side. The shift usually begins quietly. One person in the room may start making more sense to you. Another may seem more emotionally grounded. At times, somebody reminds...
When to Interrupt in Mediation and When to Let It Run
Knowing when to interrupt in mediation is a real judgment call. This guide shows how to do it with purpose, avoid reactive mistakes, and keep the process on track.