This is a great article about children of divorce. I wish more of my divorce clients would consider the effect that their divorce may have on the kids. What is the moral of the story? Parents, watch what you are doing because your kids are watching!
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Reuters Health reported on March 30 that parents of twins may be “slightly more likely to get divorced than parents without twins, according to a new study.”
As a parent of twins myself, I can see how that could be. My wife and I have five children, the youngest twin girls. While we are lucky to have a strong marriage, the stress that we endured when the girls were small was pronounced. It certainly took some effort to continue to focus on our relationship. It could have been very easy to focus all of our energy on the twins at the expense of our marriage.
The financial pressures of twin births is real too. I can vouch that double diaper and baby wipe purchases are a real hit to the monthly budget. However, I can also testify as do many other parents of multiples that I know, that having twins is incredibly enriching and adds to a person’s capacity to love.
Finally, I note that the study discussed in the Reuters article only uncovered a 1% greater likelihood in divorce rates between parents with singletons as the first child as opposed to twins as the first birth in the family. Honestly, that seems rather insignificant and could simply be a rounding error. However, as I am no statistician, I will defer to the scientists who noticed the trend.
The moral of the story seems to be that parents of twins simply need to be more aware of the risk. Having twins is certainly not a sentence for inevitable divorce, but it is a risk factor that makes one take note and take preventative measures. I would be very interested in any studies relating to co-parenting in families with twins.
Do you know anyone who had twins and got divorced? Comment and let me know!
Here is a link to the article from Reuters: Divorce News.
Below is a link to an interesting article from the Chicago Tribune with some excellent tips on how to preserve relationships between parents and children after a divorce. All too often, the parent-child relationship is badly damaged during the divorce process– especially the relationship between the chidlren and the non-custodial parent. However, it doesn’t need to be that way. This article has some great tips.
Divorced dads: Remaining close to the children – chicagotribune.com.
I would love to here your ideas. What do you think are some ways to preserve the relationships between non-custodial parents and children after a divorce. I really want to hear from you. Please give me your ideas and suggestions in the comments section below.
Here is a funny video about divorce from “The Whitest Kids You Know.” Perhaps we should all take a moment and consider the effects divorce can have on children…
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Good article with tough questions about move-away cases. I note that in California, it has gotten a lot harder for a primary parent to move than it was a few years ago. I am involved in a case right now where the primary question is the detriment issue. I feel bad for judges that have to decide these tough cases.
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