Doing your Divorce with a Child Specialist

My friend and colleague, San Diego Divorce Attorney Fran Setzer, wrote a great post about using a neutral Child Specialist to help with divorce proceedings. A neutral Child Specialist, who is a mental health professional experienced with children and divorce, can be...

Mediating Your Divorce When the Other Party Is a Bully

I will often receive a call from a potential client interested in a San Diego divorce mediation, but who is a little apprehensive because their spouse has had a history of coercion, manipulation and bullying.  The question then arises as to whether mediation is really...

Mary Kennedy and Borderline Personality Disorder

Newsweek recently published an article citing formerly sealed documents from the Bobby Kennedy, Jr. v. Mary Kennedy custody battle.  Apparently it revealed concerns that Mary Kennedy may have suffered from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).  This article caught my...

High Conflict Divorce Tip #2: Avoid Reactivity

As the next installment in my series of tips for surviving a high conflict divorce, I want to focus on the issue of reactivity-or perhaps better said, over-reactivity. Here is an email exchange that is very typical: Email #1: Susie, I was hoping to take little Johnny...

Who Smiles and Who Cries When They Divorce?

This is a good artocle published by Judith Wallerstein, Ph.D. As a divorce attorney, I have seen a great many cases where one person wants out and the other wants to stay. Usually the person who wants to stay is stunned and in denial that the divorce is even...