Alas! A New Year has come and gone again. For most of my current clients, 2023 was a rough year. It brought them the end of their marriages. Although the year may have been filled with conflict with a former spouse over money, kids, etc., you are ready to move on. Perhaps there were tears shed. Maybe dreams were shattered. Sound depressing? It can be. But 2023 is over, so there is an opportunity to build a new experience for the New Year post divorce.
Here are my suggestions for some words to consider when making your resolutions for the New Year post divorce. This is in no way a comprehensive list. It’s just some of my own thoughts. Perhaps you have your own resolution ideas that you would like to share. Here are mine:
Peace in the New Year After Divorce.
You got a divorce for a reason, right? I’m sure things weren’t all butterflies and rainbows. But now you are divorced. So take the opportunity to stop the fighting and discontinue the war with your ex. If there is a legitimate legal concern that needs addressing, use mediation or Collaborative Practice instead of adversarial litigation to resolve those differences. It’s a great opportunity to move on and find peace in the New Year post divorce. A meditation or mindfulness practice can go a long way towards achieving some peace.
Co-Parenting in the New Year After Divorce.
Before your divorce, parenting may have been easier. Post-divorce, you still have to interact with the person you divorced to raise your kids. Your kids need you to get along. There is a lot of evidence that continued parental conflict after the divorce is very harmful to children. Resolve now to be the best co-parent you can be in the New Year post divorce. Look for ways to be cooperative (even when the other parent doesn’t). If you haven’t always been a leader in the child rearing arena, now is the time to step up to the plate and make a helpful contribution. Be the grown up here and your kids will thank you.
Self-reliance in the New Year After Divorce.
Now that you are on your own, you don’t have the other person there to rely on. This is a great opportunity to stand on your own two feet with your head held high. Be your own person. Be strong. Be self-assured. Be independent.
If you are receiving alimony, look for ways to be self-supporting so that you don’t need support anymore. Meet with a vocational counselor to make new career goals. Enroll in school or get trained, or retrained, in a field that you can be passionate about.
Plan for your future financial well-being. So, meet with a financial advisor to make sure you are using your money wisely. Come up with a five year or ten-year plan. Then, check in with an estate planning attorney to make sure you have updated your will and estate plan, as you’ll want to make sure that anything you name in this document goes to the trustee of your choice.
Health in the New Year After Divorce.
Perhaps during 2023 you let the stress of the divorce affect your health. Maybe you didn’t eat well. Perhaps you stopped going to the gym. Or maybe you weren’t sleeping well. Perhaps you were depressed or angry causing your emotional well-being to suffer. Resolve now to restore your health in the New Year post divorce.
Take the time to eat well and exercise. Get good sleep. What’s more, get your annual physical from your doctor and make a plan for your physical health. Take care of your body and it will take care of you.
But don’t forget your emotional health either. Divorce can be such a toxic and painful experience. If you are struggling, meet with a therapist and work through the changes in your life resulting from your divorce. Before you date, make sure that you work though any lingering issues you may have so that you can be your best self before you involve another person in your life. I have noticed a clear correlation in my clients who sought post-divorce therapy and their level of happiness years later.
Forgiveness in the New Year After Divorce.
I know that “forgiveness” is a loaded word. It’s easier said then done. You may feel hurt or anger toward your former spouse. As mentioned before, you’ve lived through the whole process of finding a family lawyer, dealing with the stress of separation, and still taking care of the kids. You chose to divorce for a reason. And yes, consequently, you are divorced now. It’s time to let it go. The past is in the past.
Now keep in mind, I am not suggesting you allow more abuse if that is what happened before. Keep in place whatever safety measure you have to prevent others from hurting you again. I am just suggesting it is time to move on from there. Anger and hurt can be very damaging emotions. Do what you can this year to forgive so that you can leave those terrible feelings behind you. If you find you can’t do it alone (and most can’t) talk to someone. Turn to a spiritual advisor or a mentor to help you leave the past in the past.
Don’t forget to forgive yourself. Guilt has it’s place, but it can eat you up if you can’t get past it. Perhaps you have serious regrets about how your marriage ended. Rather than let the guilt consume you, find a way to learn from the experience, forgive everyone involved and move on.
You have read my list of New Year’s Resolution words for the newly divorced. What are some of your words? I would love to read them!
In recent years, the term “gray divorce” has gained prominence to describe couples who decide to part ways after the age of 50. As the U.S. population continues to age, this trend has become increasingly prevalent. While some may find freedom and relief in this decision, it’s a path fraught with unique challenges, particularly for older couples. In this comprehensive guide, we will delve deep into the considerations that need to be at the forefront of your mind if you’re contemplating a gray divorce.
1. Financial Impact of the Grad Divorce:
When it comes to gray divorce, financial implications are often front and center. Many older couples have spent decades accumulating substantial wealth together, which can complicate the process of dividing assets. It’s imperative to have a clear understanding of your financial landscape, which includes all assets, investments, retirement funds, and debts.
Gray divorce can potentially lead to economic hardship, as your income and assets may significantly diminish post-divorce. It’s wise to consult with financial advisors who specialize in divorce-related financial planning. They can help you develop a comprehensive financial plan that ensures a more secure future.
2. Retirement Plans:
Retirement plans are a pivotal aspect of gray divorces. Unlike younger couples, older folks have less time to recover financially from a divorce, making meticulous retirement planning essential. Each spouse should carefully assess the retirement assets available to them after divorce and how this will affect their future. This might entail adjusting retirement plans or even postponing retirement to secure financial stability.
Additionally, consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) who specializes in retirement planning who also has a special designation called, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA). A CFP who is also a CDFA can help you make informed decisions about how to manage your retirement accounts during and after a gray divorce.
Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) who specializes in retirement planning who also has a special designation called, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA).
3. Health Insurance and Medical Costs:
Healthcare is a more significant concern the older we get, and a gray divorce can complicate matters. If one spouse has been dependent on the other’s health insurance, they’ll need to secure their own coverage post-divorce. This often involves researching and purchasing new health insurance policies, which can be complex due to the myriad of options available.
Moreover, as we age, medical costs can increase, and managing these expenses independently can be challenging. It’s crucial to factor these potential costs into your post-divorce budget and explore long-term care insurance options to mitigate future financial burdens.
It’s essential to address the emotional implications of your gray divorce and seek the necessary support.
4. Emotional Well-being in the Gray Divorce:
Divorce is emotionally challenging at any age, but for older spouses, the impact can be particularly profound. The prospect of living alone after decades of marriage can be daunting and lead to feelings of loneliness and depression. It’s essential to address the emotional implications of your gray divorce and seek the necessary support.
Consider engaging with a therapist or counselor who specializes in divorce-related emotional support. They can help you navigate the emotional journey, develop coping strategies, and rebuild your sense of self and purpose.
5. Housing Situation:
Deciding where to live post-divorce is another significant consideration. You may find yourself needing to sell your family home and downsize, which can be an emotional and logistical process. Alternatively, if you choose to keep your home, you’ll need to consider the costs associated with maintaining it on a single income.
A real estate agent specializing in older adult housing can assist you in finding a suitable new residence or evaluating the financial implications of keeping your current home. Additionally, consult with a financial advisor to create a housing budget that aligns with your post-divorce financial situation.
6. Gray Divorce Legal Considerations:
The legal aspects of a gray divorce can be complex and require careful navigation. This may involve updating your will, deciding on power of attorney, or addressing issues related to inheritance and estate planning. Seeking legal counsel is advisable to guide you through this multifaceted process.
When choosing an attorney, be sure to add an expert in estate planning to your team. They can help ensure that your legal affairs are in order and that your wishes regarding inheritance, property division, and medical decisions are properly documented.
7. Social Adjustments with the Gray Divorce:
Older couples contemplating a gray divorce should consider the social adjustments that come with it. Friends and family may react differently to your decision, and adapting to single life can take time. Embrace this transition as an opportunity to explore new interests and activities that align with your newfound independence.
Consider joining social groups, clubs, or organizations that cater to your interests and hobbies. Building a supportive network of friends and acquaintances can provide emotional stability during this period of change.
8. Alternative Dispute Resolution Options:
Finally, in the realm of gray divorce, alternative dispute resolution (ADR) options like collaborative practice and mediation can be particularly beneficial due to the flexibility they afford, especially when compared to the traditional court-based approach.
Collaborative Gray Divorce:
This approach involves you and your spouse working with collaborative divorce professionals, including lawyers, financial experts, and mental health professionals. The aim is to reach a mutually agreeable settlement without going to court. Collaborative practice encourages open communication and problem-solving, which can be especially valuable for older couples seeking an amicable divorce.
Mediation and the Gray Divorce:
Mediation is another no-court option where a neutral mediator helps facilitate discussions between you and your spouse. The mediator helps you reach decisions on issues such as property division, alimony, and child custody. Mediation can be less adversarial and more cost-effective than litigation, making it a suitable choice for gray divorces.
"Collaborative
Collaborative Divorce is a great way to address the complicated issues of your gray divorce with maximum support from multiple professional points of view.
"Mediation"
Mediation is a flexible and cost-effective no-court option allowing for flexibility and creative solutions in your amicable gray divorce.
Both collaborative practice and mediation prioritize finding common ground and preserving relationships, which can be crucial for older couples who have shared many years together. These methods also tend to be less time-consuming and costly than traditional litigation, allowing you to retain more control over the divorce process and its outcomes.
In conclusion, while a gray divorce can offer a fresh start for some, it is not a decision to be taken lightly. Older couples considering this path need to think about these considerations comprehensively. Seek professional advice from financial advisors, lawyers, therapists, and consider alternative dispute resolution options to ensure a secure, emotionally healthy transition into this new stage of life.
By addressing these considerations proactively and exploring ADR options, you can navigate the complexities of gray divorce with greater confidence and clarity. Remember that you’re not alone on this journey, and there is support available to help you make the transition as smooth as possible.
In recent years, the term “gray divorce” has gained prominence to describe couples who decide to part ways after the age of 50. As the U.S. population continues to age, this trend has become increasingly prevalent. While some may find freedom and relief in this decision, it’s a path fraught with unique challenges, particularly for older couples. In this comprehensive guide, we will delve deep into the considerations that need to be at the forefront of your mind if you’re contemplating a gray divorce.
1. Financial Impact of the Grad Divorce:
When it comes to gray divorce, financial implications are often front and center. Many older couples have spent decades accumulating substantial wealth together, which can complicate the process of dividing assets. It’s imperative to have a clear understanding of your financial landscape, which includes all assets, investments, retirement funds, and debts.
Gray divorce can potentially lead to economic hardship, as your income and assets may significantly diminish post-divorce. It’s wise to consult with financial advisors who specialize in divorce-related financial planning. They can help you develop a comprehensive financial plan that ensures a more secure future.
2. Retirement Plans:
Retirement plans are a pivotal aspect of gray divorces. Unlike younger couples, older folks have less time to recover financially from a divorce, making meticulous retirement planning essential. Each spouse should carefully assess the retirement assets available to them after divorce and how this will affect their future. This might entail adjusting retirement plans or even postponing retirement to secure financial stability.
Additionally, consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) who specializes in retirement planning who also has a special designation called, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA). A CFP who is also a CDFA can help you make informed decisions about how to manage your retirement accounts during and after a gray divorce.
Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) who specializes in retirement planning who also has a special designation called, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA).
3. Health Insurance and Medical Costs:
Healthcare is a more significant concern the older we get, and a gray divorce can complicate matters. If one spouse has been dependent on the other’s health insurance, they’ll need to secure their own coverage post-divorce. This often involves researching and purchasing new health insurance policies, which can be complex due to the myriad of options available.
Moreover, as we age, medical costs can increase, and managing these expenses independently can be challenging. It’s crucial to factor these potential costs into your post-divorce budget and explore long-term care insurance options to mitigate future financial burdens.
It’s essential to address the emotional implications of your gray divorce and seek the necessary support.
4. Emotional Well-being in the Gray Divorce:
Divorce is emotionally challenging at any age, but for older spouses, the impact can be particularly profound. The prospect of living alone after decades of marriage can be daunting and lead to feelings of loneliness and depression. It’s essential to address the emotional implications of your gray divorce and seek the necessary support.
Consider engaging with a therapist or counselor who specializes in divorce-related emotional support. They can help you navigate the emotional journey, develop coping strategies, and rebuild your sense of self and purpose.
5. Housing Situation:
Deciding where to live post-divorce is another significant consideration. You may find yourself needing to sell your family home and downsize, which can be an emotional and logistical process. Alternatively, if you choose to keep your home, you’ll need to consider the costs associated with maintaining it on a single income.
A real estate agent specializing in older adult housing can assist you in finding a suitable new residence or evaluating the financial implications of keeping your current home. Additionally, consult with a financial advisor to create a housing budget that aligns with your post-divorce financial situation.
6. Gray Divorce Legal Considerations:
The legal aspects of a gray divorce can be complex and require careful navigation. This may involve updating your will, deciding on power of attorney, or addressing issues related to inheritance and estate planning. Seeking legal counsel is advisable to guide you through this multifaceted process.
When choosing an attorney, be sure to add an expert in estate planning to your team. They can help ensure that your legal affairs are in order and that your wishes regarding inheritance, property division, and medical decisions are properly documented.
7. Social Adjustments with the Gray Divorce:
Older couples contemplating a gray divorce should consider the social adjustments that come with it. Friends and family may react differently to your decision, and adapting to single life can take time. Embrace this transition as an opportunity to explore new interests and activities that align with your newfound independence.
Consider joining social groups, clubs, or organizations that cater to your interests and hobbies. Building a supportive network of friends and acquaintances can provide emotional stability during this period of change.
8. Alternative Dispute Resolution Options:
Finally, in the realm of gray divorce, alternative dispute resolution (ADR) options like collaborative practice and mediation can be particularly beneficial due to the flexibility they afford, especially when compared to the traditional court-based approach.
Collaborative Gray Divorce:
This approach involves you and your spouse working with collaborative divorce professionals, including lawyers, financial experts, and mental health professionals. The aim is to reach a mutually agreeable settlement without going to court. Collaborative practice encourages open communication and problem-solving, which can be especially valuable for older couples seeking an amicable divorce.
Mediation and the Gray Divorce:
Mediation is another no-court option where a neutral mediator helps facilitate discussions between you and your spouse. The mediator helps you reach decisions on issues such as property division, alimony, and child custody. Mediation can be less adversarial and more cost-effective than litigation, making it a suitable choice for gray divorces.
"Collaborative
Collaborative Divorce is a great way to address the complicated issues of your gray divorce with maximum support from multiple professional points of view.
"Mediation"
Mediation is a flexible and cost-effective no-court option allowing for flexibility and creative solutions in your amicable gray divorce.
Both collaborative practice and mediation prioritize finding common ground and preserving relationships, which can be crucial for older couples who have shared many years together. These methods also tend to be less time-consuming and costly than traditional litigation, allowing you to retain more control over the divorce process and its outcomes.
In conclusion, while a gray divorce can offer a fresh start for some, it is not a decision to be taken lightly. Older couples considering this path need to think about these considerations comprehensively. Seek professional advice from financial advisors, lawyers, therapists, and consider alternative dispute resolution options to ensure a secure, emotionally healthy transition into this new stage of life.
By addressing these considerations proactively and exploring ADR options, you can navigate the complexities of gray divorce with greater confidence and clarity. Remember that you’re not alone on this journey, and there is support available to help you make the transition as smooth as possible.
If you’re interested in using mediation to divorce but your spouse is not willing, there are some things you can do to convince your spouse to mediate. Here are seven tips to help you convince your spouse to do mediation:
1. Discuss the benefits of mediation.
Before you attempt to convince your spouse to mediate, it’s important to be clear on the benefits of mediation. Emphasize how mediation can save both of you time, money, and emotional stress compared to going to court. Explain how the process allows both parties to have more control over the outcome and can lead to a more amicable resolution. A good approach is to communicate your desire to honor what was good about your relationship as you transition out of the marriage. Hiring a mediator is a good way to part with mutual respect rather than with anger and hurt.
2. Address your spouse’s concerns.
If your spouse doesn’t want to participate in mediation, convincing them to mediate requires you to address their concerns. First, listen to their reasons for resistance and acknowledge their feelings. Then, explain how mediation can help them address these concerns and work through any issues that arise during the process.
3. Choose a divorce mediator who aligns with your spouse’s goals.
Because a divorce mediator must be neutral, it’s important to find one who aligns with your spouse’s goals and yours. It’s hard to convince your ex to mediate if she doesn’t feel good about the mediator. Ask potential mediators about their approach and style and then choose one who will work well with your spouse.
4. Involve your spouse in the mediator selection process.
It’s important to involve your spouse in the choice of a mediator. If your spouse feels like they have some control over the process, they may be more willing to participate. Show them a list of potential mediators and ask for input about who would work best for them. At this point, you may not need to covince your spouse to mediate because they will have convinced themselves!
5. Hire a divorce coach to help with how to convince your spouse to mediate.
If your spouse still resists to the idea of mediation, consider hiring a divorce coach to help you enroll them. A coach can help you strategize how to present mediation to your spouse in a way that resonates with them, address any concerns they may have, and help you communicate more effectively with them. By enlisting the help of a coach, you may, as a result, be able to overcome obstacles preventing your spouse from participating in mediation.
6. Find success stories.
Research and share stories of successful mediations with your spouse. Perhaps you have mutual friends who were successful with their own divorce mediation. This can help alleviate fears or doubts they may have about the process and show them that mediation can be a positive experience.
7. Seek therapy or counseling.
If your spouse is still resistant to mediation, it may be helpful to seek therapy or counseling together. A therapist can help you both work through emotional blocks keeping your spouse from participating in mediation. Additionally, a therapist can help you both communicate better, which can ultimately lead to a more successful mediation process. As such, therapists can be terrific allies when convincing your ex to mediate.
Conclusion: Convincing your spouse to mediate may not always be an easy process, but it’s worth the effort.
Convincing your spouse to mediate may not always be an easy process. However, it’s worth the effort if you want to avoid a long and ugly court battle. By using these seven tips, you can help your spouse understand the benefits of mediation, address their concerns, involve them in the selection process, and even hire a divorce coach or seek therapy to enroll them in the process. Remember, mediation can save you time, money, and emotional stress, and it can lead to a more amicable resolution that both parties can feel good about. With the right approach and resources, you can successfully convince your spouse to participate in mediation. This will help you move forward with your divorce in a positive and helpful way.
Referring clients to a mediator is an important part of providing quality legal services for family law attorneys. Mediation offers multiple benefits for both the attorney and their client, from reduced workloads to improved settlement rates. It can also help to promote the personal well-being of attorneys by avoiding stressful court proceedings and contentious negotiations. By grasping potential advantages of mediation, family law attorneys can make informed decisions about when to refer their clients and how best to proceed from there.
Let’s dive in!
Referring Clients to Mediation Reduces Attorney Workload
Referring clients to a well-trained divorce mediator can reduce the workload of attorneys significantly. It avoids lengthy litigation processes which can take up lots of valuable time and resources.
There is a growing body of research that supports the idea that attorneys can save time by referring to mediation. One study found that in civil cases, the time to disposition was on average 11.5 months for cases that went to trial, but only 7.5 months for cases that were settled through mediation [Nolan-Haley, J. (2015). The effectiveness of commercial mediation: An empirical analysis. Harvard Negotiation Law Review, 20, 79-110.] This indicates that referring clients to mediation can lead to a quicker resolution of the case and less time spent in court.
Another study found that in divorce cases, mediation took an average of 110 days from start to finish, while litigation took an average of 457 days [Gwynn, J. M., & Struckman-Johnson, C. (2012). Time to divorce: A comparative study of mediated versus litigated divorces. Journal of Divorce & Remarriage, 53(8), 615-632.] This suggests that referring clients to mediation can significantly reduce the amount of time that attorneys spend on a case.
A third study conducted by the Minnesota Office of Dispute Resolution found that mediation typically takes 4-6 hours, while litigation can take months or even years to resolve Minnesota Office of Dispute Resolution. (2019). The cost and time savings of alternative dispute resolution. Retrieved from https://www.mncourts.gov/mncourtsgov/media/assets/documents/Publications/ADR-study-2019.pdf.] This research suggests attorneys can save significant amounts of time by referring clients to mediation rather than engaging in protracted litigation.
Overall, the research supports the idea that attorneys can save time by referring clients to a mediator. This can lead to quicker resolutions, less time spent in court, and less time spent on each case.
Referring Clients to Mediation Improves Cost Efficiency
Mediation is typically cheaper than traditional court proceedings, meaning that clients will save money in the long run. This cost efficiency also helps promote client satisfaction since they won’t have to pay as much for their legal services.
There is ample research supporting the notion that mediation is cheaper than litigation. For example, a study by the American Bar Association found the average cost of a mediated divorce was $5,000 to $7,000, while the average cost of a litigated divorce was $15,000 to $20,000 [American Bar Association. (2017). What does it cost to get a divorce? Retrieved from https://www.americanbar.org/groups/public_education/resources/law_issues_for_consumers/divorce/.]
Overall, the research clearly indicates that mediation is a much more cost-effective option than litigation in resolving legal disputes. As such, referring clients to a mediator improves the value for the services rendered.
Increase Client Satisfaction by Referring Clients to Mediation
Mediation allows clients to resolve their disputes quickly and efficiently without having to endure the stress associated with court proceedings. This can help improve levels of client satisfaction and make them more likely to recommend your services in the future.
What’s more, ample research studies shows higher client satisfaction when a case settles as compared to when it goes to trial. [See James E. McGuire, “Factors associated with satisfaction with legal services among persons who filed for divorce in the United States in the late 20th century,” Law and Society Review 38, no. 4 (2004): 793-818; John Lande, “Lawyering with planned early negotiation: How you can get good results for clients and make money,” Dispute Resolution Magazine 10, no. 3 (2004): 7-10; Noam Ebner, “Client attitudes towards lawyers’ negotiation practices: The role of perceived fairness and satisfaction with the dispute resolution process,” International Journal of Law, Crime and Justice 55 (2018): 77-92; and Daniel W. Shuman and Robert A. Baruch Bush, “Understanding the lawyer-client relationship: An empirical investigation of client expectations and satisfaction,” Law and Society Review 23, no. 2 (1989): 343-384.]
So, settling cases improves clients’ satisfaction with their attorneys. Because mediation helps attorneys and clients settle, referring clients to a mediator will improve client satisfaction.
Using Mediation Improves Settlement Rates
Divorce cases in mediation have higher settlement rates than those pursued through litigation. According to research, cases are more likely to settle with a mediator. Here are a few studies that support this:
A study by the American Bar Association found that mediation resulted in settlements in 85% of cases, compared to 58% of cases settled without mediation. (Reference: American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution, “ABA Section of Dispute Resolution Fact Sheet on Mediation”)
A study published in the Harvard Negotiation Law Review found that mediation was successful in resolving disputes in over 70% of cases studied. (Reference: “The Positive Impact of Mediation: A Study of the Resolution of Legal Disputes in the United States” by Stephen Goldberg, Jeanne Brett, and Beatrice Blohorn-Brenneur, Harvard Negotiation Law Review, Volume 15, Spring 2010)
A meta-analysis of 83 studies on the effectiveness of mediation found that mediation was effective in resolving disputes across a wide range of contexts, including legal disputes. (Reference: “The Effectiveness of Mediation: An Independent Analysis of 83 Studies” by James Alfini, Victoria Hopper, and Craig McEwen, Journal of Conflict Resolution, Vol. 50, No. 1, February 2006)
These studies suggest that mediation can be a very effective way to settle legal disputes. In fact, it may be more successful than traditional litigation or negotiation. This means clients who mediate may be more likely to reach agreement on all issues. As a result, resolution is quicker for all involved.
Enhance Attorney’s Personal Well-being
Referring clients to a mediator can also benefit attorneys personally by reducing the stress associated with being in court or dealing with contentious negotiations. This can help attorneys maintain their professional composure and continue to represent their clients at a high level.
There are studies suggesting that settling cases rather than going to trial can reduce stress and anxiety for attorneys. A study conducted by the American Bar Association (ABA) found that trial attorneys experience more stress than their colleagues who do not go to trial. The study found that attorneys who spend more time in trial preparation, including conducting pretrial depositions and engaging in other trial-related activities, experience more stress and anxiety than attorneys who do not engage in these activities as frequently. [American Bar Association. (2009). The keys to a happy practice: Satisfaction and success in the law. Chicago, IL: American Bar Association.]
Another study published in the Journal of Applied Psychology found that high levels of stress and anxiety can impair an attorney’s cognitive abilities, including their decision-making and problem-solving skills. The study found that these impairments can be particularly pronounced in attorneys who are preparing for trial or participating in a trial. [Behan, B., & Hill, S. E. (2015). Legal minds under stress: Lessons for better lawyering. Journal of Applied Psychology, 100(6), 1645–1661. https://doi.org/10.1037/apl0000016]
A separate study conducted by the ABA Section of Litigation found that attorneys who engage in alternative dispute resolution (ADR) techniques, such as mediation, are more likely to experience less stress and anxiety than those who do not. The study found that attorneys who participate in mediation have more control over the outcome of the case, which can lead to a sense of empowerment and reduced stress levels. [American Bar Association Section of Litigation. (2016). Managing the litigation process: Going beyond the pleadings. Chicago, IL: American Bar Association.]
Overall, the research suggests that settling cases rather than going to trial can help to reduce stress and anxiety levels for attorneys, particularly when alternative dispute resolution techniques such as mediation are used.
Conclusion
In summary, referring family law clients to a mediator is an effective way of resolving disputes without having to go through the lengthy court process. By understanding the benefits that such referrals have for both the attorney and the client’s case overall, family law attorneys can make informed decisions about when and how to proceed with mediation. Doing so could lead to improved levels of success for everyone involved. With this knowledge in hand, family law attorneys will be better equipped to provide quality legal services for their clients and ensure successful outcomes for everyone involved.
