This is a link to a fascinating study about the effect of divorce on children. I would think that many of these negative effects could be miniumized if the divorcing parents worked more cooperatively. I would think that methods of alternate dispute resolution such as collaborative divorce or mediation would go a long way in reducing the stress and long term effects on children.
Here is an excellent video with information about Collaborative Practice. I am a firm believer that Collaborative Practice is a better way to divorce. By attorneys, mental health professionals and financial professionals working together, a couple facing a divorce stands a much better chance of transitioning their family in a respectful way that is better for the kids and the couple’s finances.
For more information about Collaborative Practice in California, go to www.cpcal.com.
To schedule a consultation for a Collaborative Divorce, contact attorney Shawn Weber at 858-345-1616 or visit our website at www.BraveWeberMack.com for more information.
This is an excellent article about how to work with advising attorneys during mediation. I always say, make sure your attorney understands clearly at the first consultation that you are not looking for full blown representation– just advice. I also agree with the comment that a collaborative lawyer is the best candidate. Collaborative lawyers through their training “get it” that you are trying to stay out of court. Remember, your attorney works for you and you are the boss. Don’t let an attorney talk you out of a settlement if you believe it is right for your family. You only need the attorney to make sure that your decisions are informed. You are a grown up, so if after conferring with your attorney, you believe that your choices are right, then follow your gut. You have to live with your choices, not your attorney. Read the Article at HuffingtonPost
So it’s official. Time Magazine’s Hillary Brenhouse reports that folks living in Tajikistan can no longer divorce their spouse by text message. Apparently, in old Sunni Islam tradition, you can divorce your spouse by delivering the “triple talaq“. Just deliver the phrase, “I divorce you,” to your estranged spouse and “POOF” you have a divorce. (I note that only men get to employ this convenient method for divorce.) In spite of its utility and simplicity, it has been outlawed in many of the majority islamic country’s including Turkey, Tunisia, Bangladesh, Pakistan and Indonesia. In India, according to Brenhouse, a “triple talaq” won’t get a person very far unless it also accompanies arbitration and reconciliation.
Now in the digital age, it seems, Tajik men have been delivering their talaqs via text message. Sensing that the divorce by text message is just too easy, Abdrakhim Kholikov, the head of the Tajik state religious affairs committee, has declared that sending text messages containing a triple talaq is a breach of Islamic law. Sigh… no more divorce by text message.
The triple talaq reminds me of the Klingon Divorce video I posted from Youtube last month. If divorce were this easy, I would need to find a new line of work.
Here is a funny video about divorce from “The Whitest Kids You Know.” Perhaps we should all take a moment and consider the effects divorce can have on children…
