by Shawn Weber | Mar 21, 2017 | Conflict Resolution, divorce, Mediation
In my divorce mediation career, I’ve learned over the years that people approach divorce from different places. Sometimes people want the divorce very badly and are happy to get started. Others are devastated by the breakup. It’s not uncommon for a...
by Shawn Weber | Feb 18, 2017 | Conflict Resolution, divorce, Finances, Mediation
Divorce Expenses A wedding in the United States costs on average more than $26,000. This doesn’t include the honeymoon. (Source: Average Wedding Cost) Add raising kids at a cost of $233,610 per kid and the cost of your family can be very, very high. (Source: It...
by Shawn Weber | Aug 26, 2016 | Conflict Resolution, Mediation
Not every divorce mediator is the same. In fact, some are much better than others. What’s more, a bad family mediator can cost you a lot of stress and money in the long run. Good conflict resolution requires a very specific set of skills. In other words,...
by Shawn Weber | Aug 23, 2016 | Dolphin Lawyer, Mediation
Shawn Weber on the Radio I had a blast on Real Talk San Diego on ESPN Radio AM 1700 with co-hosts Ryan White and Karen Kaseno as well as my good friend and fellow University of San Diego School of Law Alum, Brian Dirkmaat, of the Coast Law Group. I enjoyed sharing my...
by Shawn Weber | May 17, 2016 | Conflict Resolution, High Conflict, Relationships
You can control how angry and hurt you remain after your divorce. Using principles of forgiveness during divorce will help you control divorce emotions and move on. Almost every divorce involves a situation where somebody did someone wrong. Or… at the very...
by Shawn Weber | Jan 1, 2016 | Conflict Resolution, divorce, Finances, Property
Sometimes it is most difficult in divorce cases to divide personal property -the “stuff” accumulated over the years of a relationship. When people share their lives with each other, they also share and accumulate a lot of personal property. Sometimes the...
by Shawn Weber | Dec 23, 2015 | Collaborative Divorce, Dolphin Lawyer, Mediation
The F-word Those of you who know me are aware that my wife and I have five kids. When I tell people how many kids I have, there is usually an audible gasp and sometimes an expletive. (I don’t know why because I love my kids.) But as any parent will know, kids...
by Shawn Weber | Dec 20, 2015 | Children, Holidays, parenting, Relationships
For many of my clients, the holidays after divorce can be a difficult time. Many are keenly aware of the loss they have suffered as the result of their divorce and will go to great lengths to preserve a sense of family. The changes to the family, for many, are in...
by Shawn Weber | Dec 18, 2015 | Children, Collaborative Divorce, Conflict Resolution, custody, divorce
My friend and colleague, San Diego Divorce Attorney Fran Setzer, wrote a great post about using a neutral Child Specialist to help with divorce proceedings. A neutral Child Specialist, who is a mental health professional experienced with children and divorce, can be...
by Shawn Weber | Dec 17, 2015 | Children, Collaborative Divorce, custody, divorce, parenting
Do you want to give your kids a voice? Issues involving kids and divorce can be tricky. One of the great things about using consensual dispute resolution options like Mediation and Collaborative Practice in your California divorce is that you can give your kids more...
