by Shawn Weber | Mar 21, 2017 | Conflict Resolution, divorce, Mediation
In my divorce mediation career, I’ve learned over the years that people approach divorce from different places. Sometimes people want the divorce very badly and are happy to get started. Others are devastated by the breakup. It’s not uncommon for a...
by Shawn Weber | Feb 18, 2017 | Conflict Resolution, divorce, Finances, Mediation
Divorce Expenses A wedding in the United States costs on average more than $26,000. This doesn’t include the honeymoon. (Source: Average Wedding Cost) Add raising kids at a cost of $233,610 per kid and the cost of your family can be very, very high. (Source: It...
by Shawn Weber | Aug 26, 2016 | Conflict Resolution, Mediation
Not every divorce mediator is the same. In fact, some are much better than others. What’s more, a bad family mediator can cost you a lot of stress and money in the long run. Good conflict resolution requires a very specific set of skills. In other words,...
by Shawn Weber | May 17, 2016 | Conflict Resolution, High Conflict, Relationships
You can control how angry and hurt you remain after your divorce. Using principles of forgiveness during divorce will help you control divorce emotions and move on. Almost every divorce involves a situation where somebody did someone wrong. Or… at the very...
by Shawn Weber | Jan 1, 2016 | Conflict Resolution, divorce, Finances, Property
Sometimes it is most difficult in divorce cases to divide personal property -the “stuff” accumulated over the years of a relationship. When people share their lives with each other, they also share and accumulate a lot of personal property. Sometimes the...
by Shawn Weber | Dec 18, 2015 | Children, Collaborative Divorce, Conflict Resolution, custody, divorce
My friend and colleague, San Diego Divorce Attorney Fran Setzer, wrote a great post about using a neutral Child Specialist to help with divorce proceedings. A neutral Child Specialist, who is a mental health professional experienced with children and divorce, can be...
by Shawn Weber | Oct 7, 2015 | Attorneys, Coach, Collaborative Divorce, Conflict Resolution, divorce, domestic violence, High Conflict, Mediation
I will often receive a call from a potential client interested in a San Diego divorce mediation, but who is a little apprehensive because their spouse has had a history of coercion, manipulation and bullying. The question then arises as to whether mediation is really...
by Shawn Weber | Oct 1, 2015 | Conflict Resolution, Dolphin Lawyer, For Professionals, Mediation
When getting divorced, some couples are able to remain civil throughout the process. Others need help from family law lawyers like jennifer croker. And a few add chaos to the whole process because they’re in such bad conflict. The worse the conflict, the harder...
by Shawn Weber | Apr 11, 2015 | Conflict Resolution, divorce, High Conflict
Sometimes a divorce or family law case can be like a perfect storm. The fissile material of fear, hurt and anger can lead people to make terrible choices as they navigate a very difficult legal process. This video offers tips on how to reduce reactivity in divorce...
by Shawn Weber | Mar 17, 2015 | Collaborative Divorce, Conflict Resolution, divorce, High Conflict, Mediation
Peace and harmony are not prerequisites for divorce mediation. Some people believe that a prerequisite for consensual dispute resolution options like Divorce Mediation or Collaborative Practice is that the parties have to get along or trust each other. That is simply...
