by Shawn Weber | Nov 21, 2024 | For Professionals, High Conflict, Mediation
One of the most common reasons people hesitate to engage in mediation is the belief that they’ve reached an “impasse” and that mediation would be a waste of time. It’s an understandable misconception—after all, if two people can’t resolve their differences on their...
by Shawn Weber | Dec 21, 2023 | Attorneys, Conflict Resolution, divorce, High Conflict, Mediation
As a certified family law specialist (CLS-F)[i], I have been involved in divorce mediation and alternate dispute resolution (ADR) for more than 15 years. I regularly serve as a pro tem settlement judge on the Mandatory Settlement Conference (MSC) Panel with the San...
by Shawn Weber | Jul 25, 2022 | Attorneys, Conflict Resolution, divorce, divorce humor, High Conflict, Humor, Media, Mediation, mental health, Relationships, Videos
Looking for a miserable divorce? Here’s how! Under the best of circumstances, a divorce can be an awful experience. Even if you have done all your research and know exactly how divorce works, it is still often a very toxic and harmful process. But there are some...
by Shawn Weber | Nov 12, 2021 | Conflict Resolution, High Conflict, Mediation, Relationships
So, you are in the middle of your divorce negotiation. You prepared for this meeting and expected your partner would come to the table ready to negotiate in good faith. You may even be in a good mood looking forward to finally getting your divorce behind you. But...
by Shawn Weber | Jun 10, 2020 | Attorneys, Children, custody, divorce, Email, evidence, High Conflict, Relationships
By Shawn Weber, CLS-F* In short, yes. While there are strict rules regarding the use of unlawful recordings of telephone conversations, there is no prohibition against recording a voice mail message. Ostensibly, the person who left the message knew that the message...
by Shawn Weber | May 10, 2019 | Attorneys, domestic violence, For Professionals, High Conflict
It has been a long standing belief in family law: parents should not subject their kids to rants about a custody battle. Judges have long constrained speech that would unnecessarily expose kids to the nastiness and details of the battle over who gets custody of the...
by Shawn Weber | May 17, 2016 | Conflict Resolution, High Conflict, Relationships
You can control how angry and hurt you remain after your divorce. Using principles of forgiveness during divorce will help you control divorce emotions and move on. Almost every divorce involves a situation where somebody did someone wrong. Or… at the very...
by Shawn Weber | Oct 7, 2015 | Attorneys, Coach, Collaborative Divorce, Conflict Resolution, divorce, domestic violence, High Conflict, Mediation
I will often receive a call from a potential client interested in a San Diego divorce mediation, but who is a little apprehensive because their spouse has had a history of coercion, manipulation and bullying. The question then arises as to whether mediation is really...
by Shawn Weber | Apr 11, 2015 | Conflict Resolution, divorce, High Conflict
Sometimes a divorce or family law case can be like a perfect storm. The fissile material of fear, hurt and anger can lead people to make terrible choices as they navigate a very difficult legal process. This video offers tips on how to reduce reactivity in divorce...
by Shawn Weber | Mar 17, 2015 | Collaborative Divorce, Conflict Resolution, divorce, High Conflict, Mediation
Peace and harmony are not prerequisites for divorce mediation. Some people believe that a prerequisite for consensual dispute resolution options like Divorce Mediation or Collaborative Practice is that the parties have to get along or trust each other. That is simply...
